A few months ago, as I was getting dressed, my husband looked me up and down and uttered three little words to me. Contrary to what you may think, those three words were not, “I love you.” Instead, he gave me the once-over with a critical eye, focused on my bottom half and blurted out, “They’re so wrinkled.”
I admit that my shorts were, indeed, crumpled. I knew they were heavily creased when I pulled them up over my jiggly thighs that morning, but I was too lazy to iron them. Instead, I was silently hoping that humidity would do the job that I was loathing to do. The proof was staring back at me in the mirror. Still, I wasn’t ready for my sharp response to my husband’s honest observance. It was as if a lever had been flipped in my head, transforming my disposition from calm and content to one of teeth grinding, eye bugging and glass-shattering screeching.
Life didn’t use to be like that. Now that I’m firmly entrenched in menopause, I can jump on the precarious roller coaster of emotions and morph from happiness to sadness to anger to giddiness – all within the space of a few minutes – and my reasons for the whirlwind of emotions defies logic or reason altogether. It takes so little. Why is this happening?
Menopause and Mood Swings
When our mood suddenly veers wildly and unpredictably from one extreme to another, we may feel as if we have completely lost control of our emotions, and we’re often regretful, baffled and unsure why we’re behaving, unlike our normal selves.
When it comes to mood swings in menopause, estrogen is the devious, indiscriminate culprit. During menopause, estrogen levels dip and soon our hormones are thrown off balance. When that happens, our emotions can be all over the place, shifting with the speed of a lightning bolt. And these sudden shifts can be extreme, exaggerated and often irrational, swinging from one end of the scale to the other.
Signs of a Mood Swing
Mood swings can appear out of nowhere and can affect more than just emotions. During mood swings, cortisol, the stress hormone, surges. Normal levels of cortisol, which is the major stress hormone in the body and is produced in the adrenal glands, helps to maintain steady blood sugar levels, regulates how much energy our muscles burn and alters the way our bodies metabolize glucose. This is great when we want it to occur. However, with repeated elevated levels of cortisol, we can experience:
high blood sugar
feelings of sadness
Mood swings can be a difficult part of your menopausal journey, but there are ways to find relief.
Hormone replacement therapy (HRT) may offer some relief for menopausal mood swings. HRTs come in a variety of forms and they’re generally regarded as the most effective form of treatment.
Oral pills (which can contain only estrogen or estrogen and progesterone) are the most common dosage form of HRTs. Unfortunately, the risks of HRTs are well-publicized and can contribute to blood clots, stroke, heart attack, and breast cancer. Also, because oral estrogen pills are metabolized in the liver, they can have an adverse effect on cholesterol levels. Additionally, there are side effects associated with oral estrogens, such as vaginal discharge, swollen breasts, bloating, nausea and headaches. You and your doctor or menopause practitioner can decide if the benefits of HRTs are worth it for you.
While HRTs are not a ‘one size fits all’ solution, one of the benefits of HRT therapy is the overall beneficial effects on other menopause symptoms (dry vagina, decreased bone loss, hot flashes, etc.).
Other forms of HRT include creams, transdermal skin patches, vaginal rings, and vaginal suppositories.
To alter your mood and put yourself in a better state of mind, examine your current lifestyle and adjust accordingly. Are you exercising regularly? Exercise helps by triggering the release of endorphins, the “feel-good hormones,” which can give you a euphoric feeling. Yoga, pilates or tai chi are low impact exercises that help reduce stress. Or, turn to meditation or breathing exercises.
Amino acids and protein also help to improve a woman’s mood. Foods high in amino acid and protein include lean meats (pork chops, ham), eggs, dairy (yogurt, non-fat mozzarella cheese), poultry and seafood (turkey or chicken breast, salmon, halibut, cod, perch).
Get More Sleep
This one may be easier said than done. Insomnia is, unfortunately, another symptom of menopause. To help, set bedroom ground rules: Put yourself on a sleep schedule by going to bed and waking up at the same time every day (including on the weekend). Another way you can help yourself get more sleep is to put away the electronics and turn off the television at least one hour before bedtime. Electronics give off blue light which can disrupt your circadian rhythm and suppress the secretion of melatonin, which is the hormone that helps to control your sleep and wake cycle. Additionally, make sure the temperature in your bedroom is comfortable. For extra sleep support, add the Kindra Sleep Enhancing Supplement to your self-care regimen. Formulated specifically for menopause, this 100% natural supplement contains precise doses of melatonin to help you fall asleep and stay asleep, without the grogginess in the morning, plus hot flash and night sweat relief via clinically-studied ingredients like Pycnogenol and Ashwagandha.
While there may not be much scientific evidence to support it, many women have found relief by using herbal supplements. Passionflower, black cohosh, ashwaganda, St. John’s wort and maca root are all purported to be beneficial when treating menopause symptoms, including hormone imbalance, low mood, and other mood-related conditions.
Before taking any supplement, consult your physician as some supplements can have side effects and/or interact with your existing medications.
If All Else Fails, Seek Help
You’re not the only one experiencing mood swings and you don’t have to go it alone. Help can come in many forms. Talk with your female friends, join a support group or have a frank discussion with your GYN or menopause practitioner. Your voice is your most powerful tool.
No two women will suffer from mood swings in the same way. The method you use to treat them depends on their intensity. If your mood swings adversely affect your everyday life and you’re feeling increasingly unable to cope, contact your doctor.
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Thank you for this message. My mood swings are out of this world. Nobody around me seems to understand and just think I’m not being nice just because. I justt try to live with it. Now I may seek out treatment like herbs supplements.
— Tanya L.
Mood swings are the worst because you never know when they’re coming. When your emotions are so unpredictable it makes it hard to just exist without fearing when the next swing comes. I have heard that St. John’s wort and black cohosh together are good for mood swings. Thank you.
It’s so hard for me to determine if a particular symptom is related to menopause or is just a regular health issue, such as fatigue or weight gain. I guess that’s another topic i’ll need to have with my doctor.
Thanks for the article, please keep them coming because they are very helpful and thought provoking.
— Wanda S.
Hi Tanya. Mood swings can affect so much in our lives. I get them, but not too terribly bad. I even asked my husband if he’s noticed my moods hurling all over the place, and he doesn’t. That could be good OR bad (either I’m always in a mood or, in his opinion, he just doesn’t notice). :) Good luck to you.